I have always valued hard work. To become really good at something, you’re going to have to struggle and go nuts about it. Talent helps. Just look at Michael Jordan. He worked his tail off; combine that with his talent and he’s the greatest shooting guard in NBA history.
Even if you’re not so talented and still work your tail off, you can be great. Take Larry Bird. Not the most athletically talented individual, but his skill level was phenomenal. Easily the greatest shooter of all time! Larry’s greatness appeals so much to me because, as a follower of Dr. Cal Newport, skill takes you places talent, or intelligence, alone can’t. This is so profound that I’d have to include this:
Now that I’ve introduced hard work, I’m going to address some areas in my life that need some hard work.
First and foremost, I’ve been known to be a pretty good public speaker, but my interpersonal skills suck. Bad. Okay, well, not all the time, but the point is, I am a bit selective as to who I want to talk to. Additionally, this selectivity is affected by my energy level. If I’m tired, I’m pretty grumpy and the farthest thing from sociable, even when I’m around people who I actually want to talk to.
So that’s an area that I need to work on. I’ve already made some steps:
- I’ve already contacted my university’s CLC (Christian Life Community). I feel that for the longest time, I’ve been lacking a solid group of friends who are deeply rooted in their Catholic faith. Yeah, I have a good friend or two back home, but that’s back home and they’re out of state. As of now, I’m just waiting for them to contact me back. Hopefully I get in and I’m placed in the group I need to be in. Also, I better start rereading How to Make Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie…And actually apply whatever practical tips the man suggests. (Ugh…..I’m starting to hate the word “practical”.)
- Let’s be frank here, I’m way too passive of a guy to actually start and initiate a conversation with a woman without it ending up with me looking, talking, and acting like a creepy hobo. Generally, I’ve always needed to have the conversation come to me. Keeping me interested in others, is another task altogether. Some conversations come more easily than others, like when I’m talking to geeky girls - in all actuality, they can be pretty darn cute - or when I’m talking to someone who has a certain status or a trait that I admire/borderline obsessively envy. As for the others, there are a couple ways to go about it…
- Read Dale Carnegie. It’s blatantly obvious, but hopefully his book does have something to help me try to become interested in others without seeming like a creepy Asian hobo.
- Be around more social friends. Being around others leads to meeting people they know. And the more social said friends are, the more people I’ll know *domino effect*.
Sneak into the Honors Program events.Actually I might get into trouble for that. Become even closer friends with people in the Honors Program then sneak into their events.What?
- Casually jump into a conversation with them given that the topic is something familiar to you. Ensure that you are relaxed and not in such an uptight, work all day mood. I think this last one seals it.
"Heavenly Father, help me to view the effort I give in every aspect of my life as a gift to You. Lord, teach me to work for You and not for people. I want to fulfill the plans You have made for me-for Your glory. Thank You."